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You are here: Home / Blog / Why Paying for Something Makes it Valuable

Why Paying for Something Makes it Valuable

February 3, 2021 by Melinda Blau

Photo by Israel Jiménez, FreeImages

Did you ever forget YOUR phone number? I did, and I explain why in “Dyslexia Never Dies,” my latest article on Medium.   Check it out; the title only gives some of it away!

By the way, the link above is considered “a friend link” on Medium and guarantees that you will have access even if you haven’t paid the $50 annual fee to read all the articles on the site.  Personally, I find a lot of smart thinkers and good writers there.   And since the site at least tries to pay its writers, $50 isn’t a huge price to pay to keep journalists like me in toilet paper!

If you’re reading this, and you’re a subscriber to this blog, believe me, I appreciate your attention.  But as I’ve mentioned before, I began to write for Medium because I have a potentially greater audience there.  And maybe that’s because they charge a fee.

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Let me tell you why I think this: Many lifetimes ago, when my father owned the Black Angus, a steak house in Manhattan, he decided to convert it into a disco/cabaret.  He would call it Big Julie’s — after himself, but that also happened to be the name of a famous Vegas high-roller mafioso type. 

This was in the mid seventies–pre Studio 54.  Cabaret was already extremely popular.  “Doing the Disco Hustle,” the New York Times reported, were a slew of big-name players, including Regine who opened her a chic boîte in the Delmonico Hotel and the Copacabana.  A slightly edgier scene had already been happening in downtown lofts, where the entire space was one huge dance floor, frequented by a mostly gay clientele.    

My father, who owned several restaurants and a chain of “Food Farm” supermarkets in the fifties and sixties, figured that if people were flocking to cabarets and discos, why not have both under the same roof?  Given his supermarket mentality — have as many products as possible and just get ’em into the store — he would not limit himself to a particular genre of entertainment nor ask his customers to pay a cover charge. 

I worked with him in those days. I booked headliners as diverse as  Laurie Beechman (a Broadway singer/actress who died young and now has a theater in her name) and the rock singer Meatloaf.  We also auditioned comics, among them Jay Leno, whom my father deemed “too ugly” (may my father rest in peace!).  Despite my urging — and knowingn that other clubs charged a cover — he would’t consider asking people to pay for entertainment and their dinner.  

Big Julie’s made headway coming out of the gate.  A story about the cutting-edge “drink pouring system” my father had installed was featured in the New Yorker. But we couldn’t sustain the traffic.  I’m convinced that it wasn’t the odd mix of headliners that doomed Big Julie’s.  It was the fact that people didn’t have to pay to watch them. 

You don’t value what you don’t pay for.  I struggle with this as a writer.  In the nineties, I earned as much as $7500 for one piece in New York magazine.  I was paid six-figure advances for many of my books.  I say this not to brag, nor even as proof of my worth as a writer, but because I was paid for my labor.  Those articles and books took time and energy. Not getting paid is not being valued.   

The internet — and other factors — changed the economies of writing, our reading habits, and the number of people who call themselves or want to be “writers.”   I don’t need to make as much as I used to, luckily, but it’s still nice to get paid.  For now, Medium is one answer to that dilemma.  (And I still post here, so I’m writing even more!)

 Do leave comments for me here and on Medium.  I like knowing who’s on the receiving end of my writing.   

 

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  1. Françoise Crouzaud says

    February 3, 2021 at 2:36 pm

    Never forget your value !
    Be convinced of what you’re worth !
    Respect from others starts with self-respect !

    • Melinda Blau says

      February 3, 2021 at 5:01 pm

      You are 100% right, Francoise!

  2. Holly Royce says

    February 3, 2021 at 2:38 pm

    Lots of interest in this blog. Learned lots about the author. There was a Black Angus Steakhouse in North Miami Beach and I miss their reasonable meals and special cocktail the name of which escapes me now.
    As for Big Julie of Vegas fame my Dad knew him rather well as a “regular” on the junkets he organized to various hotel casinos. I would say my Dad valued those trips even though they were”free”. But since the house never loses I suppose the “free” was a misnomer.
    I value your writing but at this point in time I’m not sure I want to pay Medium $50 as yours is the only writing there I will read.

    • Melinda Blau says

      February 3, 2021 at 5:00 pm

      No need to join Medium. I will continue to make the free “friend” link available. And at this point in my life and career I’m happiest about being read, not being paid (although that’s nice, too!). So thanks fir reading!

    • Melinda Blau says

      February 3, 2021 at 5:03 pm

      Also, I love that tour father knew the other Big Julie. Clearly, we are kindred spirits!

  3. Gregg Hartnett says

    February 3, 2021 at 5:30 pm

    I will do whatever it takes to have the pleasure of reading your musings. Because of following you to Medium I’ve discovered a new reading venue filled with useful and informative pieces by other writers. Thank You.

    • Melinda Blau says

      February 4, 2021 at 2:43 am

      No, thank YOU, Greg. It was you who urged me to keep blogging. And now, knowing you’re on the other end keeps me going!

  4. Gail says

    February 3, 2021 at 8:01 pm

    “Oh Melin’” ( remember that refrain?)
    Fun to read about way back when. Big Julie (smaller than me, actually) was great fun to be around. He seemed to love being around us girls and he was certainly an interesting man to be with for teenaged and young twenty something women.

    • Melinda Blau says

      February 4, 2021 at 2:42 am

      “Interesting” is one way to put it! Glad you liked the piece. It was fun for me to remember and to Google the Black Angus and Big Julie’s. I had almost forgotten that the New Yorker interviewed him. If you didn’t click on that link, do. The writer really captured him!

  5. Bert says

    February 10, 2021 at 10:39 am

    I joined Medium awhile ago and while you are the only author I follow for every piece, I am very glad to get access to the other pieces that come my way. I like the breadth of content.

    Speaking of valuing one’s time and dads, my father was a school psychologist who paid each kid he gave a test to $1.00 to take the test. I asked him why. He said he wanted them to know their time was valuable and valued. Then he added, “plus it keeps them there til the end.”

    • Melinda Blau says

      February 15, 2021 at 4:04 am

      I wish my father had known your father. But at least I did — and the story totally fits! Thanks…

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